July 12, 2008 – How to Make Traveling with Kids Less Stressful with Shelly Rivoli, author of Travels with Baby and guest on Childhood Matters
During the weeks after my recent hip replacement surgery, as my body started the healing process, I had time to go inward and reflect on many things. I thought about my health, my work, and what the future may hold. I felt deep gratitude for my family and the healing we have all done over the years. I reflected on how grateful I am to the parents who I work with in classes and individually. I learn so much from each person as I am reminded of the love and challenges all parents face in raising children.
As you welcome 2015, take time to reflect on your life—what healing is needed? How can you come into alignment with your goals and purpose?
Think of the gifts you bring to the people in your life, and how you can feel more connected to the people you love or care for.
This is a time for healing. Start with yourself. Does your body need more movement, different food, affection, or time alone? Consider making a commitment to carve out time alone to think about your needs and develop a deeper sense of compassion for yourself as well as others.
Consider the children in your life, and think about their daily experience.
- Do they have opportunities to contribute to the family or their community and express their kindness and curiosity?
- Do they get out into nature enough with time to explore?
- Are they too stressed out by school and homework?
- Are you and your family able to disconnect from electronics and enjoy each other’s company?
- What changes do you want to make at home?
- Do you want to have more family dinners or fewer weekend commitments?
- What is working well? What needs some attention and shifting?
Many people are reflecting on the need for peace in our communities, our country, and our world. Acknowledging and healing the disparities that exist based on race, class, and poverty must be attended to if we are to have any possibility of peace. So do what you can and bring your courage, kindness, and generosity into the world.
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I was so grateful to be able to sit with a group of parents at Parents Place in S.F. to speak honestly about the daily challenges they have juggling work, children, and time to refuel. Yelling is one way parents express their stress and frustrations, their exhaustion, and sometimes their isolation. Regular yelling is not good for children. They are bound to think they are “bad” and not understand why mommy or daddy are so angry at them. It doesn’t help them learn to solve problems. The word to remember is “PAUSE.” Take a few breaths, calm yourself, and think about what your child needs in the moment. Take a few minutes to sense your body and calm your mind. It will lead to a happier and healthier life—something you deserve.
“Was That Me Yelling” presentation on 11/6/13 6:30-8:30PM. To register and find out more got to: http://www.parentsplaceonline.org/san-francisco/classes/yelling