Complexities of Parenting

When it comes to parenting approaches, one size does not fit all. There are many factors that influence how you raise your child based on things like temperament, parenting style, culture, and family and social influences. There are many different styles and methods of parenting, and if you get confused about what your child or grandchild needs, you’re not alone.

Listen now to KPFA.org 94.1FM (4/19/21)

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My guest on About Health, Dr. David Rettew, will join me to discuss topics such as screen time, eating habits, discipline, and the benefits and challenges of different parenting styles such as “helicopter” versus “old school” parenting. There are a lot of questions facing parents of young children, but  understanding more about your child’s temperament and yours will guide you through the different stages of childhood.

Guest: David Rettew, MD is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the University of Vermont Larner College of Medicine. Dr. Rettew has over 100 published journal articles, chapters, and scientific abstracts on a variety of child mental health topics, including a 2013 book entitled Child Temperament:  New Thinking About the Boundary Between Traits and Illness.  He also writes a blog for Psychology Today called, “The ABCs of Child Psychiatry.”   His newest book is called Parenting Made Complicated: What Science Really Knows about the Greatest Debates of Early Parenting. You can follow him on Twitter and Facebook @PediPsych.

Pandemic Parenting

There is so much to consider during this pandemic as parents and grandparents do the best they can to keep their relationships with their children healthy and loving. There is no “right way” to get through this time in our lives…but if we can put our children at the center of our decisions, then we will nurture and keep safe the next generation. And in order to do this, parents MUST take care of themselves with enough sleep (your laughing now) healthy food, a little time each day to move your body, and deep gratitude for being alive and building your capacity to thrive in the face of adversity.

Many different events, thoughts, and emotions can trigger your yelling and frustration, but they are all modified or intensified by three unique and important factors: Your temperament, your child’s temperament, and how they fit together.

To learn more check out the links below:

-Article on temperament 

-Temperament survey to look at your temperament and also your child’s-

https://www.nurserona.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/PDF_ImpressChildTemp.pdf

-To learn more and to get a temperament assessment for a child 4months to 5years go to www.preventiveoz.org. 

-You can also read the classic book, “Raising Your Spirited Child,” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, or my book “Is That Me Yelling? A Parent’s Guide to Getting Your Kids to Cooperate Without Losing Your Cool.”

-You can also listen to a show on Temperament with Nurse Rona and Mary Sheedy Kurcinka http://ia802205.us.archive.org/0/items/childhood-matters-10-03-21/chilhood-matters-10-03-21.mp3