There are many questions women have when they are in their 40′s and 50′s about when menopause (the last menstrual period) will occur and what treatments are available for the physical symptoms and mood changes that often occur.
Dr. Amy Day and Nurse Barb Dehn were my guests on “About Health” on Monday July 13th. You can hear the entire show here: https://kpfa.org/player/?audio=210178
Barb Dehn is a Women’s Health Nurse Practitioner, award winning author, and a nationally recognized health expert. An in demand and popular national speaker on all aspects of women’s health, she also lectures at Stanford and is a frequent health expert on television and radio
Amy Day is a naturopathic doctor. After eight years at San Francisco Natural Medicine, Dr. Amy opened her private practice in Berkeley specializing in helping busy professional women with stress, fatigue, and hormonal issues. She uses an integrated approach combining diet, exercise, lifestyle counseling, stress management, nutritional supplements, botanical medicines, and bioidentical hormones as she guides women on the journey to optimal wellness. Learn more at www.DrAmyDay.com where you can download a free copy of her newest e-book: The Busy Woman’s Guide to Adrenal Health. www.DrAmyDay.com/adrenalguide
Take a listen to the “About Health” show we did on Monday July 6th. You can download it at: https://kpfa.org/player/?audio=209821
We discussed some simple things you can do to prevent and treat serious health emergencies such as Heat Stroke, Dehydration, and Drowning. And we’ll review ways to assess a situation, such as finding someone on the ground, not knowing what happened. With summer here, it’s a good idea to hone our first aid skills, and review some lifesaving measures.
Joining me was Ashanti Boykin, Emergency Medical Technician, MA program Coordinator, BLS Coordinator, and EMT Skills Instructor, at Fast Response School of Health Care Education. in Berkeley.
Contact me at email@example.com if you have any questions or ideas for future shows.
Have you talked with your family or neighbors about how you’ll help each other when the next earthquake or fire hits? It’s so easy to put off doing what we need to do to prepare, but there are little steps we can all take that will reinforce our resilience and keep us healthy and safe.
Join me and my guest Ana-Maria Jones for a lively discussion on how to prepare for emergencies from a non-fear based perspective.
KPFA Radio, 94.1 FM or online at KPFA.org
Monday June 22nd 2-3PM
Ana-Maria Jones is the Executive Director of CARD – Collaborating Agencies Responding to Disasters, a nonprofit located in Alameda County. Created by local community agencies after the 1989 Loma Prieta earthquake, CARD offers an alternative approach to emergency preparedness, disaster response, and planning activities.
We look forward to your questions and concerns. You can call in at 510-848-4425 or toll free at 1-800-958-9008
June is Men’s Health Month with the purpose to heighten the awareness of preventable health problems and encourage early detection and treatment of disease among men and boys. On June 8th I was joined in-studio at KPFA (94.1FM) by two wonderful men to discuss Fathers, Kids, and Health.
There are many ways fathers can be good role models for their children, especially when they spend time together. You can listen to the show at https://kpfa.org/player/?audio=184112
Our guests were:
Dr. Will Courtenay, an internationally recognized expert in men’s health and in helping men, boys, and fathers. The American Psychological Association calls him, “a leading psychologist in the field of masculinity.” He provides psychotherapy and counseling to individuals in the S.F. Bay Area, and phone consultation to those outside of the area. You can reach him at 415-346-6719 or check out his website at http://www.themensdoc.com. He is also the author of Dying To Be Men: http://www.amazon.com/Dying-Men-Environmental-Biobehavioral-Psychotherapy/dp/0415878764
Gary Thompson, the Fatherhood Coordinator for the Family Health Services Division of the Alameda County Public Health Department. He is also one of the co-founders of the Fathers Corps, a learning community of male service providers administered in collaboration with First Five, Alameda County. http://www.first5alameda.org/alameda-county-fathers-corps. He has more than twenty-five years of experience administering education and family-centered programs and advocating for the Bay Area’s most vulnerable children and families. You can reach Gary at 510-667-4343.
Lisa Fredericksen and Caroll Fowler, MFT were my guests on About Health, on KPFA—94.1 FM, on May 25th to discuss what happens to the people who live or work with a person who misuses alcohol. If you missed the show, here is the link: https://kpfa.org/player/
Lisa Frederiksen is a national keynote speaker, consultant, and founder of BreakingTheCycles.com. She is the Author of nine books, including “If You Loved Me, You’d Stop!” and “Quick Guide to Addiction Recovery: What Helps, What Doesn’t,” and the Quick Guide to SecondHand Drinking: A Phenomenon that affects millions. You can contact Lisa at:
Caroll Fowler is a therapist who has been working in the field of addictions for 28 years. She has worked at a number of treatment programs and most recently was the Director of the Family Program at Sequoia Center in Redwood City. Additionally, in 2011, she was the Co-Founder of a nonprofit, drug and alcohol program in Kenya. She has a private practice in Castro Valley and facilitates a group for family members in Redwood City. You can reach her at 510-582-5225
Learn more about the health consequences of secondhand drinking at:
My gratitude to the wonderful callers who shared their stories, comments, and questions.
“Secondhand drinking is a term to describe the impacts another person experiences as a result of trying to cope with a person’s drinking behaviors. These are the behaviors a person engages in as a result of drinking alcohol in quantities that exceed what the body and brain can handle. These behaviors include the insane, circular arguments; verbal/physical or emotional abuse; physical assault; unwanted sex; the behaviors that occur in a blackout; the accident caused when driving while impaired.”—Lisa Fredericksen
On Aug. 28th I had the pleasure of talking with George Reiter on KPFT, the Pacifica station in Huston. George covers progressive and environmental issues on his show, Thresholds, and is interested in talking about discipline and raising children with respect. You can hear my interview about yelling less below.
Dr. Intisar Shareef also joined George Reiter on Sept. 11th to discuss discipline and the consequences of using harsh physical punishment with children. It was a terrific conversation about her own experience raising foster children, and about the work she does teaching parents, children, and childcare providers.
You can here it below:
Linda O’Connor and I discussed how easy it is to yell at kids and what we can do to reduce our reactivity and increase awareness and respectful responses.
Take a listen, and let me know how you reduce your stress and yell less.
Check out Linda’s other interviews: Radio http://timelessweck.com/podcasts/parent-talk.
In my book, “Is That Me Yelling?” I touch on the issue of sleep deprivation as a common trigger for parental yelling during the day, or at 3AM, when you’re not able to be rational or calm.
There are many consequences of too little sleep, such as lack of focus, irritability, poor emotional control, and an overall foggy feeling. Sleep deprivation can also set you up for a lower resistance to fighting off colds and other illnesses. Parents and children frequently feel stressed out, and a good nights sleep is an important element in stress reduction.
Many parents report that when their child gets into the habit of waking up in the middle of the night, they lose it, and start to yell. Yelling rarely helps, and will often make matters worse since a child may get worried or upset, motivating her to want more comfort.
Most couples share the burden of getting up at night to comfort a crying baby or to walk a seven year old back to her bed after her loud howling woke you and perhaps the neighbors as well. And if you’re a single parent, your sanity depends on creative solutions to getting a good night sleep.
What has worked for you, to help your child learn how to put herself back to sleep? Here are some solutions that parents have used. What would you add?
- Walk your child back to bed and help her learn ways to soothe herself back to sleep. Stay calm and in control of your emotions—and with a consistent message over time your child may learn that he can go back to sleep without a parent there.
- Give-in to his desire, and let him sleep with you “just this one night.”
- Put a sleeping bag or mat (not too comfy) on the floor in your room and tell your child she can come and sleep there in the middle of the night, as long as she doesn’t wake you up.
- Teach your child how to do slow easy breathing (maybe with a stuffed animal on her belly) or the body-scan, so she can soothe herself back to sleep. Try an eye pillow that has a soothing lavender scent.
- Get a dog to sleep with your child.
- Try a sound machine. For some kids it does the trick when they stir at night. You may find it useful for trips as well.
- Revisit your child’s bedtime routine. Work to teach your child how to fall asleep at bedtime, on his own—without a parent sitting there until he is asleep. If he gets use to falling asleep without you there, he will be more likely to fall back to sleep without you as well.
- Make sure he has had a good dinner or a bed time healthy snack, so a hungry belly isn’t the cause of waking.
- Talk to your child about her school day and listen to any fears or concerns she has about her school performance or friendships. Worries can keep a child from falling back to sleep. Reflect on the amount of one-on-one time you have with your child.
- Engage your child in a conversation about what would help him get back to sleep without waking you. Experiment with the different ideas if they make sense to you. Let him know that you need your sleep and you don’t want to be woken up at night. Tell him that you will be a much nicer person during the day if you sleep well.
- Do an inventory on the level of stress in the house in the evening. If things are tense between family members, it can impact healthy sleep.
- Don’t have TV or other electronics in your child’s room. Too much visual stimulation, or scary movies, can cause sleep waking. Also the bedroom should be on the cool side, and most people sleep much better in the dark, with the lights out and good curtains to keep the sun from shining into the room in the early morning. Some children do better with a night light, so you’ll need to figure out what’s best.
- Talk to your health care provider to rule out any issues such as sleep apnea or snoring.
Children go through different stages of development. At some stages they become more aware of the world around them, and because of that, they may not feel safe or secure. Many children become more aware and interested in death and dying between the ages of 7-9, and they may temporarily need extra comfort and connection. Behavior has meaning, and at the same time habits get formed easily, so think it though before you bring your child into your bed at night. It’s a personal decision, so decide if that’s what you (and your partner or spouse) want, and if that’s what your child needs. Each family is unique, and so what works for you may be very different than what works for your friend or sister.
Thanks to my friend Janis Keyser, it was a lovely day meeting many parents at Google, and also getting to see one of the their terrific Childcare Centers.
The main thing I would add to this hour long video is a more developed response to a parents question about whining, I would add that we not only need techniques to help our children break the habit, but sometimes we really need to understand what they are asking for. Sometimes a child will whine when they don’t think they can get a parents attention any other way. And sometimes it’s their inner frustration and stress that comes out in the form of annoying behaviors. There are ways to respond instead of yelling as I mention in the video, and it’s always good to step back and think about your child’s experience.
Search and learn from over 8,000 videos for parents, teachers, or anyone who cares for and about children. Kids in the House is a fabulous resource, offered by hundreds of experts and parents. You can watch my videos by clicking here: Rona’s Kids In The House videos.
It was fun to be on the air with Armin Brott. You can hear the interview starting at 31:35 of this link:
Check out the Preventive Ounce if you want to learn more about temperament and how it relates to your child’s behavior and your own— http://www.preventiveoz.org
Listen to Nurse Rona and Maeve Conran of KGNU radio in Boulder Colorado as they speak about why parents yell, the consequences of yelling, and what to do instead. Learn about the ABCDE’s to change your yelling habit:
Many parents and children experience anxiety. Sometimes it’s mild, but other times it can get in the way of fun or meaningful activities. Does your child avoid field trips because he is afraid he’ll throw up on the bus? Do you say no to an invitation to go to a party because you are worried you won’t know anyone, or that you don’t have a new outfit for the event? Research shows that as parents, we often pass on our anxieties to our kids, and in some families there is a genetic component as well.
Here is a good story from NPR about a family who reached out for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to reduce anxiety. Don’t be ashamed if you or your child needs help. Life is a lot easier when anxiety doesn’t rule.
It was a wonderful night in Boulder, thanks to my daughter Mara and her friends and colleagues. I met many people who do great work for children and families. I enjoyed the questions from parents who, like most parents, are trying to figure out how to communicate with their kids without letting their feelings of frustration and anger get the best of them.
Do you live in Boulder Colorado? If so take a listen to KGNU Thursday at 7AM. I’ll be talking with Maeve Conran about my book “Is That Me Yelling?”
I hope to see you on May 22nd at the Boulder Bookstore at 7:30PM for a book reading. Bring your friends and your questions. Come if you yell more than you would like to, or if you want to learn more about reducing your frustration with you child. We’ll discuss ways to yell less and and reduce your stress and your child’s.
It was terrific to do a book reading at Book Passage in Corte Madera. I had the chance to reunite with friends who helped make my radio show, Childhood Matters, successful….Peter B. Collins, Marisol Munoz-Kiehne, and Ether Seiderman. My gratitude to my daughter Carina for helping me and being a shining light, and many thanks to Kathryn and Melissa at Book Passage, and Rebecca Wood-Breen of Parents Place, who co-sponsored the event.
I love talking to parents about raising children and becoming more aware of how to respond rather than react to their child’s behavior. It takes patience and practice to stay calm and decide what’s needed.
I look forward to doing a book reading in Boulder Colorado this week. Please let me know if you would like a presentation in your community.
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Take a moment to think about the things and people you appreciate. An attitude of gratitude is good for your health and the well-being of the people you interact with. Aired: November 2012
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