If you feel like you are getting stressed and might start to yell, just turn this song on and do the A-B-C-D-Es of not yelling.
A = “Ask yourself what you are feeling and thinking.”
B = “Become aware of your breathing.
C = “Calm down before you discipline.”
D = “Decidewhat your child needs.”
E = “Empathize with what is going on with your child.”
The emphasis of A-B-C-D-E is to take your time before you discipline.
This concept is explained in detail in Chapter 6 of my book, “Is That Me Yelling.” You can get a copy May 1, 2014. But for now you can read chapter one at https://www.nurserona.com/is-that-me-yelling/
I was so grateful to be able to sit with a group of parents at Parents Place in S.F. to speak honestly about the daily challenges they have juggling work, children, and time to refuel. Yelling is one way parents express their stress and frustrations, their exhaustion, and sometimes their isolation. Regular yelling is not good for children. They are bound to think they are “bad” and not understand why mommy or daddy are so angry at them. It doesn’t help them learn to solve problems. The word to remember is “PAUSE.” Take a few breaths, calm yourself, and think about what your child needs in the moment. Take a few minutes to sense your body and calm your mind. It will lead to a happier and healthier life—something you deserve.
Join other parents to explore ways to gain your child’s cooperation without losing your cool. This series is based on my book, “Is That Me Yelling?” due out May, 2014.
Dates: 1/22, 1/29, 2/5, 2/12
Time: 6:30-8:30 PM
Location: Berkeley (you’ll receive the address when you register)
Cost: $150 per person $275 for couples
In a safe, comfortable, small group setting you will—
Learn techniques to manage your stress.
Practice becoming more aware of your feelings, thoughts, and actions.
Support each other’s desire to yell less and enjoy your kids more.
Understand the temperament of your child and yourself.
Review the 4 C’s of discipline—communication, choices, consequences, and connection.
